How to Squirting During Sex: The Real Guide Nobody Gave You

Let’s be honest sex can be confusing sometimes. Not the whole act, but the expectations around it. You’ve probably seen porn clips, overheard wild stories, or read some random blog saying “every woman can squirt if she just… blah blah blah.” And maybe you thought wait, is that true? Or maybe you’ve tried, and nothing happened, and suddenly you’re thinking: “Am I broken?”

You’re not. Not even close.

The reason this matters today is because so many people (both men and women, by the way) are curious about squirting but feel stuck between myth and reality. Some want to experience it for pleasure, some just want to know what the heck it actually is. Is it pee? Is it magic? Is it rare? The answers are messy. Literally and figuratively.

So, let’s go step by step. And I promise no clinical, robotic tone. This is about real humans, real sex, and real mistakes.

The Core Problem / Challenge

Here’s the deal. Most people think squirting is like a magic button. Press the G-spot, wiggle fingers, boom fountain. But the truth? It’s not that linear.

There are myths floating around, and I believed some of them too. Like:

• Myth #1: “Every woman should squirt if she’s doing it right.”
  
• Myth #2: “It’s just pee.”
  
• Myth #3: “Only porn stars or kinky people do it.”
  

Honestly, I used to roll my eyes at the whole squirting conversation. It felt exaggerated. But then I read studies, spoke with people who actually experienced it, and yeah learned the body is weirder and more beautiful than I thought.

The challenge isn’t just physical. It’s psychological. Because if you’re in your head worrying about “when will it happen?” it almost never does. Pressure is the enemy of arousal.

Research & Psychology Insights

Here’s what science actually says.

• In 2014, a French study using ultrasounds found that fluid during squirting comes from the bladder but changes composition (meaning it’s not “just pee”). Some researchers suggest it mixes with fluids from the Skene’s glands (sometimes called the female prostate).
  
• Sex therapists like Emily Nagoski often emphasize that arousal is a context-driven process. If you don’t feel safe, relaxed, and deeply turned on, your body won’t let go. And squirting is basically a massive “letting go.”
  

So it’s not only about technique. It’s about psychology. Think of it like sneezing you can’t force it. But the right environment, the right build-up, and suddenly… boom.

Actionable Steps / Solutions

Okay, enough theory. How do you actually do it? Here’s a roadmap:

1. Mindset first. Stop expecting fireworks. If you chase it too hard, your body locks up.
   
2. Hydration. Yes, seriously. Drink water. Not gallons, just enough so your body has something to release.
   
3. Warm-up. Long, slow foreplay. Think kissing, teasing, oral build tension until you can’t stand it.
   
4. G-spot stimulation. Insert fingers (or a curved toy), palm up, and make a “come here” motion. Firm but not painful.
   
5. Combine clitoral play. For many, G-spot alone isn’t enough. Add clitoral stimulation for the cocktail effect.
   
6. Pressure, release. The feeling might mimic needing to pee. Don’t fight it. That’s actually the build-up. Push out slightly when it feels overwhelming.
   

Wrong approach: Jackhammering fingers like a drill.
Better approach: Rhythm, patience, mixing sensations, letting her body decide when it’s ready.

Real-Life Examples & Scenarios

Imagine this.

You’re with your partner. She’s aroused but nervous. You rush straight to the G-spot like it’s a switchboard. She tenses, nothing happens, and both of you feel awkward.

Now flip it. You spend 20 minutes kissing, whispering, teasing. You don’t even mention squirting. She’s dripping, fully relaxed. You slide fingers inside, slow at first, mixing in clit play. She feels the pressure build and says, “Wait, it feels like I’m gonna pee.” Instead of stopping, you reassure: “It’s okay. Let go.” And she does.

Which one do you think works?

Comparison Table: Wrong vs Right Approach

Expert References & Authority

Dr. Beverly Whipple (yes, the one who helped discover the G-spot in the 80s) has written about female ejaculation being real and tied to Skene’s glands. Emily Nagoski, in her book Come As You Are, stresses that context and safety are non-negotiable. And sex educators like Kenneth Play even run workshops where couples learn techniques hands-on (talk about a weird but fascinating class).

Practical Tools & Resources

• Check-in questions to ask your partner:
  
  • “Do you feel pressure or pleasure right now?”
    
  • “Want me to slow down or keep steady?”
    
• Journaling prompt: After sex, write what sensations you felt and when. Over time, you’ll notice patterns.
  
• Toys worth trying: Curved G-spot dildos, vibrators that hit both clit + G-spot, waterproof sheets (seriously, best investment).

Myths & Misconceptions

• “Squirting = orgasm.” Not true. Some squirt without climax. Some climax without squirting. They’re separate but can overlap.
  
• “It’s dirty.” It’s natural body fluid. Use a towel and move on.
  
• “Only young women can do it.” Nope. Age isn’t the barrier comfort and openness are.

Emotional & Lifestyle Angle

If you’ve ever felt stuck or pressured about this, you’re not alone. So many women carry shame about “leaking” or not performing. Men, too, worry about “failing to make it happen.” But intimacy is bigger than that.

Think of squirting as a bonus track on an album. The music is still beautiful without it. If it happens, amazing. If not, you’re not missing the whole show.

Future Strategies / What’s Next

Heading into 2025 and beyond, sex conversations are becoming less taboo. More workshops, better toys, even AI-driven sex coaching apps (yep, that’s a thing) are helping people explore. The best strategy? Stay curious, stay kind, and experiment without pressure.

FAQs

Can every woman squirt?

Not necessarily. Many can with the right stimulation, but not all do and that’s okay.

Is it just pee?

Partly bladder fluid, but altered. It’s not identical to urine.

Does it feel better than a “regular” orgasm?

Different. For some, it’s more intense. For others, it’s just messy fun.

Conclusion

So, how to squirt during sex? Start by not chasing it. Focus on trust, patience, and exploring the body without judgment. Think of it as opening a door, not forcing it.

At the end of the day, squirting isn’t the holy grail of pleasure it’s just one expression of it. The real magic is in connection, communication, and the freedom to let go.

And honestly, isn’t that what sex is about anyway?